Women of Means

The Women of Means program supports women who have specialized needs based on their abusers’ power, privilege, and access to resources. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. Otherwise please call our Crisis Line 24/7 or our Office.


  • Partner controls her contacts with family and friends.
  • Partner controls her with sex, by forcing her to do things she is uncomfortable with.
  • Partner publicly humiliates her, belittles her, and criticizes her.
  • Partner sends conflicting and contradictory messages, blaming her for his behavior, and shows anger and withdrawal of affection.
  • Partner uses status and privilege to control his partner.
  • Partner uses threats of withholding money, or holds such a tight reign that it renders her financially vulnerable.
  • Partner is emotionally and/or physically abusive.
  • Partner makes her feel isolated, alone, and ashamed because she thinks this abuse does not occur within her peer group.


  • Controlling who your partner sees or spends time with.
  • Having expectations that no one can meet.
  • Making all of the decisions.
  • Setting all of the rules in the relationship.
  • Treating your partner like a baby, property, or servant.


  • Calling your partner names.
  • Constant criticizing your partner
  • Embarrassing your partner.
  • Humiliating your partner in front of people.
  • Making your partner feel guilty.
  • Making your partner feel like she is crazy.
  • Putting down your partner.


  • Destroying objects.
  • Making your partner feel afraid.
  • Smashing gifts.
  • Talking down.
  • Tearing up pictures.
  • Threatening to hurt yourself or your partner.
  • Using a threatening tone.
  • Yelling or screaming.


  • Acting like abuse is okay in the relationship.
  • Making a joke when you hurt your partner.
  • Not accepting responsibility for your actions.
  • Telling your partner that everything is her fault.


  • Grabbing or slapping.
  • Hitting or shoving.
  • Holding your partner so that she can't leave.
  • Hurting your partner where bruises don't show.
  • Punching or kicking.
  • Slamming your partner into a wall.
  • Strangulation. 


  • Accusing your partner of cheating on you.
  • Not letting your partner have other friends.
  • Telling your partner how to think, dress, and act.
  • Using jealousy as a sign of love.


  • Bragging about your sexual relationship.
  • Comparing your partner to past partners.
  • Flirting to make your partner jealous.
  • Pressuring your partner.
  • Raping your partner.
  • Using drugs or alcohol to get sex.


  • Constantly threatening to find someone else.
  • Saying you can't live without your partner.
  • Saying you will commit suicide if you break up.
  • Telling your partner you will leave her somewhere if she does not cooperate.

Friend to Friend

103 Monroe Street
Suite 102
Carthage, NC 28327

910.947.3333 | Crisis Line
910.947.1703 | Office Line
910.947.3327 | Court Advocate
[email protected]
9am to 5pm | Monday - Friday Closed 12pm to 1pm for lunch
Restraining Order Support:
M: 8:30-3pm - T: 8:30-3pm - W: 830-3pm - TH: 830-12pm F: 830-3pm